You are not alone.


Straight Partners Anonymous (SPA) is for straight (heterosexual) people who discover that their partner is lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender, and who need help in coping with this discovery and support in their decision about what to do next.

We are sorry that you are here. We are sorry because the fact that you are here probably means that you are in some level of distress. Perhaps that is a huge understatement, or maybe you are just looking for information.

Either way, we are here to support you.

SPA is a volunteer support organisation – so we don’t have a fully manned 24/7 response. If you are in crisis right now and feel suicidal, phone the samaritans (uk) on: 116 123. Then click here to get in touch. ¬†We WILL reply.

If you are the LGBT partner in this relationship, please pass on this web address to your straight partner. We are here to support them. However you may find our perspective useful so please feel free to browse through the website.